Hello MN - this is a bit if an anxious appeal - I have a 7yo DD who I just can't fathom. No matter what I do she is just so contrary and battles against everything. She is so controlling and can be so nasty at times. I try to be patient with her and stand firm and show her that no matter what that I love her - but it seems she wants to sabotage everything all the time. It has got to the point where our relationship is near broken. I don't know what to do. I've lost it several times with her and then felt full of remorse and guilt. I don't like myself very much right now as I feel like such a crap mother. She makes me feel that she doesn't like me, doesn't want me around, she's told me she "tries" to love me but finds it hard - she's told me that she hates me but doesn't want to. She's very bright academically but quite babyish in her personality. When we get into these arguments it becomes toxic - she gets physical and I have sometimes gone tit for tat to let her know what that feels like - but then I am a monster - and I feel that I am a monster - for doing that. What can I do? I don't want her growing up damaged and with a low self esteem but everything I try just doesn't work. What can I do short of keeping out of her way?
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Has anyone ever turned around a bad relationship with their DD? Please tell me how!!
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AnxousAnnie · 20/07/2016 08:30
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