My dp of 15 months is going through a really difficult time. His ex is trying to reduce his access to his son and it is having to go to court. He's a very involved father and this is breaking him. He's also under an intense amount of pressure at work. He's become very emotionally withdrawn and silent. I think he's been seeing me out of duty rather than wanting to see me sometimes. At times he says he just wants to lie in bed with the duvet over his head. He seems to have lost pleasure in everything he used to enjoy. He thinks he still loves me but he can't feel anything very much at the moment as he's numb. He said those feelings don't just go away and he thinks it is his situation. I have have become anxious and needy which obviously is the last thing he needs right now. I tried to end it on Sunday but we both ended up crying. Sunday night we talked and I said that I thought there was still love there and I didn't want to just let go. I told him I'd be there if he needed me but that rather than feeling he was obliged to see me on certain days, I'd give him space and he could come to me when he really wanted to see me. I said that dealing with the court and solicitors was the most important thing right now, that he was not to worry about us and that we would be ok. He will be in touch I know, but I find uncertainty really really hard. Neither of us want to end things yet, but I'm trying so hard not to feel rejected. He's clearly very low at the moment. I guess I'm posting on here for the support I need right now, as he needs room to get through his issues alone and I'm very sad too. We really have had something special and I hope we can come through this. Obviously there are no guarantees. I just need a big cuddle right now. I love this man so very much and he's hurting and I can't help him.
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