I've been seeing a guy for about 6 weeks, I like him but it's very early days. He is separated but not divorced (as am I) and has DC 11 & 12.
His kids come first, obviously, that's exactly as it should be....but last night was the 3rd time he has cancelled on me last minute as something had come up with his kids...I'm understanding as to the reasons, but not happy at being let down so late in the day.
There seems to be no boundaries or routine in the contact he has with them, he sees them at the family home usually but any overnights are at his dad's house where he's staying. His ex will call him & say the kids want to see you, and he drops everything to go round there. I find this very strange (not that he wants to see them but that he doesn't say he has plans) but it's way too early for me to voice any opinion on it to him.
I don't think there is anything going on between him & his ex and as far as I can tell he is into me (seems more so than I am into him) so my question is, do I give him the leeway and be chilled about it, or is this a road to nowhere and I'd be better cutting my losses before developing any real feelings for him?
I like him and enjoy his company so don't really want to call it off, but I don't want to be taken for a mug either.
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New man being a bit flaky
JellyBean31 · 18/07/2016 10:24
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