Hi everyone, I've posted before about a difficult relationship with my now ex (thanks to wonderful posters on here giving me the strength to leave him)
I am worried though for my safety. He has moved to the top of my road, so can see when i go out and things. It's been nearly 2 months since the split now but he says he cannot get over me and has used the word obsessed a number of times. I know it's wrong but occasionally we've gone on days out with the kids together, as friends, for practical reasons and to both enjoy a big day out with the kids.
Anyhow, I thought things were going ok, we had a good weekend spending time together and alone with the kids. Then last night he went for a drink with a girl. He knows that I am on a third date with someone later which he's very pissed off about. He wanted to come over which i replied i was going to bed, but then he told me he was outside my door and wanted to talk for 5 minutes so i let him in.
This turned out to be a big mistake as he'd had a drink and ended up being very threatening. I can only describe it as the strongest verbal assault you could give someone if you want them to do something. He repeatedly told him we can fix things, he won't be with anyone else and i need to "fuck off" this other guy. When i told him it won't work he told me i had destroyed his life, ripped his heart out. He said i just want to fuck other guys and said he better not see this guy, he would get injunctions put in and he will never see the children. This went on for a while, and i was feeling very scared as i was trapped.
He has never been violent to a woman and says he never would be but he has been violent to men including my dad. I'm scared that I may be in danger if he loses his temper, he said in a text after that he's sick of crying and "wanting to do things" but he didn't specify what whether harm to himself or to others. It took me about ten minutes to be able to move last night after he stormed out though because i had froze.
Do you think the situation will be ok if i just limit contact to what is necessary with the children and then he'll come to terms with things? I really think he just needs to find someone new and he'll be fine and forget about me. I feel sick about my date tonight now though, which is maybe what he wants.
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MySordidCakeSecret · 18/07/2016 09:12
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