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Getting really upset and angry

(19 Posts)
Tryagain92 Sun 17-Jul-16 21:19:15

I am literally at my wits end here! So frustrated. My partner and I rent a house but we rent the rooms out cos the rent is quite high and we decided to help the landlord out who actually owns the place. Anyway, this was two years ago and I am now 26 weeks pregnant. The council has refused to help me and said I am not a priority so that means we are stuck in one bedroom with a baby and a house full of tenants. I've asked my partner several times to get this woman to move her things out because her furniture is cluttering the place up to the point where I have nowhere to put my things! There's no room to put the pram either as her furniture has taken over the front room!

The kitchen is full to the brim cannot even put a steriliser or bottles there! I am getting so annoyed. My partner is not saying anything he is just saying that he will sort something out... Well I haven't got long left and I want it sorted now! I've tried finding private one flat and apply for housing benefits but absolutely getting nowhere cos housing benefits either doesn't cover the rent or they don't accept DSS.

I really don't know what to do. I did not expect it to plan like this! I had it in my head we would move out and get everything organised but nothing is happening!

BurningBridges Sun 17-Jul-16 21:24:43

whats your legal position? Are you sub-letting? Surely you are renting a room yourself, not renting a house?

JennyOnAPlate Sun 17-Jul-16 21:25:23

Are the other tenants paying rent to your landlord or to you (ie are you subletting?)

JennyOnAPlate Sun 17-Jul-16 21:25:32

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Madlizzy Sun 17-Jul-16 21:50:41

Don't wait for your partner to tell her. Do it yourself.

Madlizzy Sun 17-Jul-16 21:50:44

Don't wait for your partner to tell her. Do it yourself.

Dontyoulovecalpol Sun 17-Jul-16 21:55:24

Tell her yourself but at the same time, you can't bring a baby up in a shared house. You can't expect people to treat it like they're guests in your family home and the kitchen is always cluttered with loads of individuals there.

Why can't you afford the rent for a one bedroom place between you?

Tryagain92 Sun 17-Jul-16 22:07:30

He is unable to work due to several reasons don't really want to go into details on here but we are renting the whole house but hav lodgers to help with rent and bills the landlord won't allow DSS or any benefits cos he doesn't want anything associated with it he just wants cash for rent so thats what we do

DragonsEggsAreAllMine Sun 17-Jul-16 22:46:08

Who are you angry at?

You planned a baby in a shared house with no income, the only person you should be mad at is yourself.

You can't expect other tennants to move things on their own home, they have just as much right as you to have things.

CalleighDoodle Sun 17-Jul-16 22:49:01

Howany lodgers?

CalleighDoodle Sun 17-Jul-16 22:49:29

In whag way are you helling the landlord out?

Are you working?

BitterAndOnlySlightlyTwisted Sun 17-Jul-16 23:07:05

You haven't really thought any of this through, have you? Pregnant, partner not working and living in a shared house. This is how your life is going to be now unless something changes. And that change will have to come though your own efforts

smilingeyes11 Mon 18-Jul-16 06:03:38

landlord only wants cash, sounds a bit dodgy. Have you got a gas safety certificate. Are you living in a HMO?

MollyTwo Mon 18-Jul-16 07:42:40

I agree with Dragons. This has been the case for two years, why did you plan a baby when you knew your situation? The council should not be housing you just because you don't like your living arrangements. Are you working yourself? It must be frustrating but I don't understand how you knew exactly what the situation was and didn't sort that out first.

TheNaze73 Mon 18-Jul-16 07:52:52

Who actually is your anger directed at? I'm struggling to see what's wrong here.

Costacoffeeplease Mon 18-Jul-16 07:55:13

Does the landlord know you're subletting rooms?

With lots of people in the house (how many?) there's going to be lots of stuff, I don't see how you can get round that

Dontyoulovecalpol Mon 18-Jul-16 08:06:12

Why don't you work?

PlaymobilPirate Mon 18-Jul-16 08:09:14

You've both put yourselves in this position - stupidly in my opinion. How irresponsible.

Tryagain92 Mon 18-Jul-16 08:12:25

Yeah I am working but have to go on sick leave due to an incompetent cervix
Thanks everyone just wanted to vent my pregnancy hormones sad x

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