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Dealing with seeing an ex...

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LostGirl17 Sat 16-Jul-16 21:18:52

Hello,

New member! But been reading a long time and kind of get you guys give fantastic no nonsense advice.

So, about 18 months ago I broke up with my ex (same sex relationship). I didn't deal with it well at first, but gradually got back into things about six months ago and now I'm really happy. I have a new partner, kind of, and we've been dating a good few weeks and I'm pretty smitten (known each other three years so it's lovely to have developed!)

Anyway, about three months ago I took up a sport I know my ex plays, but thought I should be able to do whatever I like without her getting in the way. I play for a different team and really enjoy it, it's fun and lovely and the people are fantastic. Since the break up I've seen my ex a few times with her new girlfriend and it doesn't bother me, however she acts like I don't exist and can't even give me a polite hello. Instead crossing the street to evade me! And tomorrow we're going to be in this tournament together, I didn't think I'd be bothered by it, I don't think she knows I'll be there but now as its inching closer I feel really nervous for some reason!

I don't want her back, but being in such close proximity and the obvious tension of playing on opposite sides is going to be difficult for me to deal with. I'm worried people will notice (most of the girls know we shared a house, not that we were together) and if it comes to the end and she can't even shake my hand it'll be completely noticeable. I really wish my new girl could've been there but she's away at a festival!

So, am I just being stupid and should suck it up and grow up?! Or should I make my excuses and not go? I don't even know why I feel this way!

coco1810 Sat 16-Jul-16 21:36:37

You need to go and get it out of the way. Play your best, then look amazeballs after you have changed. Meet your new partner and move on.

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