Hi
I'm a married man, mis 30s and married for 12 years, didn't date long before this and had first child a year into our relationship, now have 3 great kids.
To summise we got married young, my wife has/d issues with esteem and had been bullied as a kid, I was adopted and only realise now the cluster f**k of issues this has caused me.
we had issues from the start but for long I thought these were mine alone, I've worked jobs I hate to support her when she wanted to take longer off to be with our kids, something which put me in debt which took years to get past.
When I our 20s and out with friends my wife would be the one to flirt with other fellas, I've found her holding hands with other men, deep in conversation etc
The years role on, we grow older and happier, more so through mutual safety. I start an affair, I fall for the person and hard, a connection I never had, she's my every thought and want.
But I've a wide who is totally financially reliant on me, 3 children who I love with all my heart.
Can you stay and be in acceptance of what I have or leave?
I know I'm a total bastardd for the affair, I know that the issues that drove me to seek affection are my fault, but it's the situation I am in. My wife knows about the affair and it's over but I think more and more of her everyday, I miss the connection more than I've ever missed my wife
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Women's thoughts please..,
Blokeneedshelp1 · 16/07/2016 14:19
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