I've been with my partner for 2 and a half years, he's a good man who i love and adore. We have a baby together! When we first met things were great, however he never introduced me to his family....who i still have not met. When he went to see them hed cut all contact with me. He only told them about me when i was pregnant a year after we first met.
He used to cook, take me out, talk and we enjoyed spending time with each other. Then he slowly started to spend more and more time on his phone, it got so bad hed be on it for up to 10 hrs a day, ignoring me.
Our son was born and he had not contributed to anything he needed leaving me to buy cot, pram ect and he never paid anything towards his son being around until i kicked up a fuss six months after he was born. He would spend every weekend away, go off with his daughter from first marriage taking her camping, staying in hotels, cinema, take out all weekend, he never invited me to spend time with them., he'd leave me alone with baby all the time, which is fine as i can cope and enjoy being with my son. My partner was not interested in the baby yet told everyone he was excited and happy. Time has gone on and i hoped we get a mortgage and buy a house together, get married...... However he continues on his phone for ridiculous amount if time knowing it upsets me, he failed to get a mortgage and not because he cant afford it but because he wont make cut backs, save money or spend time putting into our family future. My partner pays a ridiculous amount of CSA for his daughter and tells me he wont reduce this even though CSA have said he can reduce by £200 a month. He says he does not want to effect the quality if her life. Yet he could save the equivilant of a morgaGe payment a month if hed reduce CSA for daughter by 200 and move in with me ( something daughter would also benifit from if my partner got mortgage with me,as this would provide secure family environment for her too). Partner would not have to pay for our baby if we lived together and would save with the small reducetion to the daughter. He told me he was going to start saving money back in December yet he has saved nothing to date. So i have now as a lone parent got a mortgage and i save money to pay for everything. My partner is earning 8 Times what i bring home. Is it me or is my partner not willing to save money, make cut backs as hed rather live single life and favour daughter rather than live with me and be a family for our son and his daughter Something that would benefit all of us????
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helene78 · 15/07/2016 20:03
These threads always start with "he's a good man..."
Don't have any more children with him.
Go back to full time work.
Get your own place.
Claim via the CMS for maintenance for your child.
People will keep bringing babies into these sham 'relationships'... 
This man is not your 'partner' in any sense of the word.
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