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Feel a bit uncomfortable around friend

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MilicentKing Tue 12-Jul-16 12:51:55

I have a very good friend. Known her only about 3 years, but we've become very close as she's supporting me through a difficult time.

Anyway, I've started to feel a bit physically uncomfortable around her, in a way I have never felt with my other female friends.

The hugs seems a bit too intimate, the jokes a bit personal, but hidden behind humour...like she's testing my response.

I have started to feel less comfortable talking about personal things to do with my body (not massive personal things, just shaving bikini area, or boobs - just stuff people talk about) because...I don't know...I feel like she's imagining me naked or something. She seems to be overly interested in my figure and weight.

She is married, never mentioned being bi or curious. She knows I am straight.

Shall I just carry on being me?

ImperialBlether Tue 12-Jul-16 12:58:14

Trust your instincts. If you're uncomfortable talking about things like that with her, then don't talk about them.

I tend to avoid anyone who makes me feel uncomfortable - would you be happier doing that?

IHaveHadHOWManyUsernames Tue 12-Jul-16 14:51:29

As I've gotten older, one of the things I've learnt is to trust my gut instinct as it is always pretty much correct. Every single time someone has made me feel uncomfortable, and I have chosen to ignore it or whatever, that person has always ended up showing me exactly why my gut was telling me to be wary.

I think you should listen to your gut and avoid this person. It's not much of a friendship anyway if you feel you can't share certain things with her.

MilicentKing Tue 12-Jul-16 22:15:35

Thank you. I don't think I need to end our friendship, in the same way that if a man was coming on to me, it would be better to have it out in the open, clarify our positions and hopefully remain friends.

I could be WAY off, as I said we've only been friends for a few years and close ones for less than that.

She really is helping me through a difficult time at the moment and I don't want that to stop.

I will keep an eye on things.

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