A bit of background for you. I hope this doesn't sound like whinge.
Have been with my OH for 5 years we have a DD who is nearly 2. I am 40 and OH is 46. I moved to a new area just before we got together and have since struggled for work - had some, but not nearly as highly paid as when I lived in the city. I was diagnosed with PND when my DD was 9 months and I had some CBT which seemed to help. I'm still not sure if it was really PND or if it was a culmination of money stress/lack of sleep etc.
My OH is hard working, honourable and kind. He's a brilliant dad - he wasn't the most confident to begin with but follows my lead with what to do even though I'm totally winging it and they have a gorgeous relationship.
My problem is that I just don't want to sleep with him.....WHY??!! I make excuses all the time. I don't feel sexy at all and I've completely lost the will to jump him in a fit of passion!! I'm slowly putting on weight. My energy is rock bottom. I've had bloods checked etc and all ok. I have done 'things' for him in the bedroom, but in my heart of hearts I just want to be by myself for a bit .... but not permanently. Just to get 'me' back. God I sound awful . He's patient....but for how long?
He's not romantic and I grew up on chick flicks unrealistic happy ever after rubbish!! He'll always be there for me, he just won't be there with roses IYSWIM. Help, help, help! My confidence is shot and I don't know what to do.
Thanks for reading - I hope it made sense.
Any success stories of how you get back on track would be really welcome - I'm usually a really positive person, I just feel a bit and .
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wheredidmy30sgo · 06/07/2016 10:16
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