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letting my crazy outr

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7baby7 Mon 04-Jul-16 15:07:50

I'm hoping if I let some of my crazy out here then it won't slip out in real life! NC for this!

So basically a guy has come back into my life, I would say we were each other's first loves many years ago, he is the man I have set every other man I've been with against, I have never really forgotten him, and he says the same about me, there is something different about our feelings for each other than anyone else we've been with, but I don't know if that's just first love itus or something more

Any way he's very recently come out of his marriage and we have started speaking and seeing each other

But I feel sick, I don't know what his intentions are, he's very nice to me and says lovely things about always thinking about me etc, but then he'll say something else that will make me think he doesn't want anything serious

I know I could just ask him, but it's so soon and I'm worried he'll think I'm trying to force him into committing and will panic as its so soon after marriage

I'm also very aware it could be a rebound and he just wants some affection!

I haven't properly fallen for anyone like this for many years and when I feel that feeling of sort of dread you get when you realise you like someone and your feelings are totally at their mercy it's almost too much to handle!! I feel very off balance and like I don't know what he's going to do, and that scares me!

Should I just keep going as we're going and hope all is well or should I broach the subject and risk appearing a bit unstable?

And what's people's experiences with first loves and rebounds etc! I feel like it's a minefield!! confused

TheNaze73 Mon 04-Jul-16 16:42:58

I think you should just ask him. Do it casually but, you have every right to ask

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