My OH is a good man. He is hard working and affectionate. He provides for his family well and he is a good father. The problem is, we have become so disconnected! We don't share a bed anymore as I prefer to sleep with our two little ones (says a lot I know) and I am the one who has become unaffectionate, cold and distant.
I am just fed up. I feel taken for granted. I have been over-worked, under appreciated and generally neglected along the way. My stresses have been ignored to the point where I have had a few meltdowns and very little changes. I am skimming a lot of details here! My OH has two children that live with us, one is lovely but one of them Is very, very difficult. He is very complex and controlling, tells lies and can be quite aggressive too.
I've found myself getting crushes on other men lately! This is bad. I never thought this would happen. I ventured in to marriage full of hope, madly in love and with dreams of being together forever. It's so sad. I do love him and he does try to be a good husband (dinners out/weekends away) but nothing ignites that spark for me. And I can't seem to forgive past issues. But I do love him. I care for his happiness. So I guess our marriage may not be irretrievable. As we still have love! Just feel so, so, so disconnected.
We have enrolled in a marriage counselling course as my husband knows I have had many issues with our marriage and our life together in the past and I am unhappy. Hopefully this will help?
Has anyone else gone through a really rough patch in their marriage, almost to the point of giving up? But then managed to bring back a spark and a renewed energy in to the marriage? Re discovered happiness and re connected? I want to make it work if only for out children's sake. They deserve stability. But fully aware they will want happy, bonded parents growing up!
Feel like shite! Any advice or similar personal experiences? Do people really successfully work through their marriages in most cases, our most people's blips as big as this, and for those that have ended up having to enrol on marriage counselling, is it highly likely to end in separation anyway? Are we just biding time? Sorry if my post is a bit flat. Just feel a bit bleak about married life right now
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sootysweep · 04/07/2016 13:55
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