who the fuck feels like arguing at 7.30 in the morning

[UpDownUpDownandaweebitannoying]

My husband is a dick. There I said it.

I'm shattered have a banging head, little sleep, mother of all periods (sorry TMI) trying to make a cheerful morning for kids and he is having a go because I haven't sorted the washing well enough. On and on till I feel like useless piece of crap.

So patronising.

Sat in car park by the sea with a McDonald's coffee trying to get my head together.

It's ok, I'm going soon. As in STBX husband. Just having a rant.

[NaffOffMartha]

Deep breaths OP. Hope the sea air will do you good.

[pippistrelle]

What a terrible start to the day.

But presumably not new behaviour judging by what else you've said? Ah well, all serves to strengthen your resolve.

Hope the sea works some soothing magic for you.

[Felascloak]

Tell him to sort the washing himself. Knob.
My husband can be a bit critical of how I do jobs, there are now a few areas of housework I don't do because I'm not prepared to be told I've done them wrong. If his standards are that high, he can do them.
Sounds like you have other issues too though .

[Squeegle]

Poor you. Sometimes there is nothing else you can do but get out of the way.
Unfortunately my DS age 12, takes after my X. He is ready to be disagreeable at any hour of day or night. Not an attractive characteristic.

[hellsbellsmelons]

What a cock he is.
You're getting out though so fake it 'til you make it.
Deep breaths.

[Ramblesoften]

Feel your pain,
Cross words at bedtime,
Cross words first thing in the morning.
Cross words all day.
Drains the life out of you doesn't it.

[UpDownUpDownandaweebitannoying]

Sea air and caffeine. Perfect.

At moments like this I can't believe I am constantly full of second thoughts.

Why does he have to make me out to be the bad guy for leaving when it's like he hates me. We could be sensible adults managing a civilised ending for our children.

Thanks for responses.

I have furniture to build at new house. At least I'm making an early start. And feeling motivated!

Feeling much calmer thanks.

Yes Ramble it's rubbish isn't it.

[Anniegetyourgun]

But then if he were a sensible adult you probably wouldn't be leaving him. How obliging of him to keep reminding you of it.

[Cat2014]

Sounds like my ex h. We are separated but still in the same house for the time being. I hope you are ok, deep breaths and try not to get sucked in, I know it's hard

[blitheringbuzzards1234]

Building the furniture will give you something creative/constructive to do and focus on - you might find it soothes you to let your mind wander at the same time, then the troubles of the early morning may seem less important. Sometimes a bad start to the day can then become a better ending.

[Cat2014]

Actually, reading your other reply, you could almost be me! It was my h's decosion to leave me and it was all fine and amicable when I was absolutely broken,. However now I'm strong and getting my life together, and realising I'm far happier, he's having some kind of regret but it's too late.. So he's being unbearably mean and not making the atmosphere as comfortable as It could be for ds. I'm trying so hard not to bite. Sorry to crash thread it's just a virtual fist bump really

[UpDownUpDownandaweebitannoying]

Yes Annie, quite true.

Cat I don't like to say this as I don't know how long before things change for you, but I'm at my new house now and it's so soothing to be in my own space.

In fairness to my husband he'll be finding this change very stressful just now but we need to put the children first.

Hopefully he will do something cheerful with them while I'm out.

Right, better get cracking. Ive been quite enjoying the furniture building. Got halfway through bunk beds yesterday....

[Costacoffeeplease]

Your plans are obviously fairly advanced if you have a new place and furniture to build - good - let him rant away to an empty place while you start your new, better, happier life without him in it

[hellsbellsmelons]

I hope the furniture building went well yesterday.
Hopefully this morning he's left you alone?

[UpDownUpDownandaweebitannoying]

It did go well thank you, quite satisfying building things.
Barely saw him this morning.
peaceful morning at library playtime with youngest.
Thanks.