DS is spending the weekend with STBXH. DS vomited three times during the night (STBXH only told me because I had what I thought was food poisoning and was vomiting too). I asked STBXH to take DS to the doctor - or DS could come with me to the GP.
At pickup time (for DD, different schedule) DS was hot. STBXH then disclosed he had a fever but he was not taking DS to the doctor today. There is a lot of backstory to doctors but in short, STBXH cant be bothered waiting to see a doctor (unless it is for himself). So we had an argument about the doctor, it got heated and he started fu**ing recording me again and I took his phone away. I was holding DS (3 y.o) in my arms and DD (1 y.o) in the strolller. STBXH struggled and then grabbed my arm and hurt me. There was bleeding and a bruise. As this hapenned I ask for help to a man across the street who intervened and called the police. So nothing further hapenned.
We were waiting for 4h and then police said they could not send a unit tonight. They will probably come home in a few hours to write a report.
This was not the first time that conflict arised at pickup/dropoff. I already asked to meet in a public place because I didn't feel safe. But today this hapenned in the street (very public).
Now, I need to drop DD tomorrow again and I . I would like to request an access centre for exchanges.
We do not have a court order yet and I still can't change the locks in the house. I stacked a bunch of furniture behind the front door for tonight. He is not agressive per se but he reacts violentlt in certain situations. Tonight I remembered he threaten his previous fiancee with a knife. So I am thinking of a restraining order. Do you think I should ask for one? Will I get it with a simple scratch and bruise in my arm? Or should I calm thing down and let it go (requesting the access centre)?
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Dispute at pickup: restraining order or mediation?
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torontonian · 03/07/2016 05:29
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