Fucking bastard cunting prick!!!!

[NoCapes]

I hate this man that I live with
I fucking hate him

[Mrskeats]

Why what has happened?

[AnyFucker]

What has he done/not done ?

[RadicalPessimist]

What's he done? Are you safe?

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Are you safe?

[NoCapes]

Sorry no I'm safe, he's not even here

I'm at home with a screeeeeaaaaaaming baby - that gargling real blood curdling scream, I'm hungry, I need a drink, I phoned him and asked him to come home
He said no!!!
Just what the fucking fuck!?!

I've told him not to bother atall
I want to punch him in the throat right now

who does that!?!!

[letsstaytogether]

Take a deep breath. Take a few deep breaths......

[Lules]

Put your baby in the cot. Get yourself a snack and a drink and go into a separate room for a minute. Then try getting the baby to stop crying when you're a bit calmer can you tell I did this about half an hour ago

[TheWildRumpyPumpus]

Does he have form for this? How old is the baby?

I presume there's a backstory as going on what you've said, he may think you could get yourself something to eat/drink, especially if he's on a rare night out with friends.

As I said though, I presume you have other ongoing issues which mean he ought to make an effort and get home.

[letsstaytogether]

Sounds like you need a break.
You sound tired & stressed. What's his reasons for not coming home to support you?

[MsPavlichenko]

He's showing you what you can expect. Hopefully you can show him this is the first and last time he does it. If not, get rid.

[Mrskeats]

Where is he?
Have you got family or a friend you can call on?

[SmallLegsOrSmallEggs]

How old is the baby?

Second getting yourself some food in another room.

Put the baby done and maybe put the radio on with her on quiet or anuthing else that might entertain her long enough for you to get your blood sugar up.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Right -

Put the baby down, in the Moses basket/cot/vibrating seat whatever. Put the baby down, have a drink, go to the toilet, do yourself a piece of toast or two (assuming you haven't eaten), pick up baby, eat toast.

The baby will not combust for being left to cry for 5 minutes. You look after yourself too.

Tomorrow, speak to your partner about his unreasonable behaviour and how you will not tolerate it.

[SpaceDinosaur]

Baby checklist
Hungry?
Thirsty?
Nappy?
Pain?
Top to toe. If baby is screaming for screamings sake, you've got to look after you or you will wind up in a mess yourself.

Put baby in their cot. Make sure they are safe.
Close the door.
Put the kettle on.
Have a drink.
Have a sandwich.

Give yourself a moment to stop. You are ok. This too shall pass but right now it doesn't feel like it.

[Joysmum]

Omg the screaming baby scenario. I think pretty much everyone can relate.

I'm with the others. Do the usual checks then pop the baby down safely in the cot and go to the kitchen to gather yourself and hit the reset button.

In the meantime, remember you're doing a fantastic job and these things happen.

Leave it until tomorrow before dealing with your OH

[AnotherPrickInTheWall]

In a few years time all this will be a distant memory. I loathed the baby years.

[Sunshineonacloudyday]

colic baby my baby screamed for 3 hours straight for the first 3 weeks. It was a nightmare still don't know why to this day. You have to breath and tell yourself its not his/her fault and rub his back. If he/she is not hungry or needs a nappy change then he is in pain with colic. Look into cranial osteopath he or she can help straighten him out. You can also buy colief for his or her colic. You are doing fine rip you're oh head off tomorrow.

[cdtaylornats]

unreasonable behaviour

You assumed that without any context whatsoever.

Perhaps its "I can't come home because my arms halfway up a cow delivering a calf"

Or "I'm in A&E having my leg plastered"

[228agreenend]

Another - that's a bit harsh. A mum is struggling with a baby and needs support not criticism. Her marital status is irrelevant.

Having a baby can be hard work and it doesn't matter whether you are young, old, married , single, first child or thirty third child, we all have moments when we can't cope.

[monkeywithacowface]

What's with all the twatty single parent comments these days? So now men don't need to do their share because single mums have to do it alone?

[AliceInHinterland]

Does the fact that OP is not a single parent give her partner a free pass to do whatever he wants. Should she be grateful for any tiny shred of parental responsibility that he takes? No idea what the full picture is in this particular case but I find that comment a bit pointless.

[Sunshineonacloudyday]

Listen to the other posts and take 5 minutes out to sort yourself out.

[gamerchick]

Put your baby in the cot and take five. Scream there in your arms or in cot, scream anyway.

Have a pee, have some grub and a drink and take 5 in the garden. Your baby will be fine and you'll be able to go back to it fresh.