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Help, am I going mad?

(6 Posts)
bettyclocks Thu 30-Jun-16 19:48:53

Married for nearly a year, together with DH for six. Very happy stable relationship, no trouble with jealously or flirting or anything. HOWEVER I have just borrowed his tablet to check a friend's Facebook birthday and found some concerning info when clicking on the search bar.
He has been searching for/viewing two women repeatedly for the last few months (Facebook search history says this). After a bit of digging, looks like one of them isn't on Facebook but she is a work colleague that he obviously is keen to track down/view. The other is a work colleague he is not friends with but obviously likes looking at. Her photos are all tiny dresses, boobs and bum, and she's about 22...
Do I a) stop being so mental and trust he is just curiously looking at their profiles wishing he was young enough/attractive enough to go there (he's 37)
b) Calmly ask him what is going on?
....Feeling shocked and a bit sick.

timelytess Thu 30-Jun-16 19:59:47

Find out more before you mention it. Unusual spending? More 'overtime' or working away? Gather all possible evidence, then consider your position.

bettyclocks Thu 30-Jun-16 20:18:10

Thanks. I think you're right, I need some more evidence before I start confronting him. The trouble is I'm such an open book and he will know something is up. I'm going to have to do some good acting when he gets home...

wombattoo Thu 30-Jun-16 20:21:39

What's wrong with just asking him? That's what I would do. I think people can be a bit too quick jumping to conclusions

prioritymail Fri 01-Jul-16 01:01:48

Apparently my OH uses the search when he wants to catch up on what ppl have been doing as it 'faster than scrolling through friends list or news feed'? I'd wonder why they weren't on his friends list if he was so interested in them though...can only ask and hope you get a satisfactory answer...

TheNaze73 Fri 01-Jul-16 11:01:07

Mixture of a & b OP. Why don't you just ask him directly?

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