Need some advice re wedding?

[Cupcakes112]

Hi.

I haven't posted before. So bear with me!

Basically me and partner have been together for 10 years (engaged for 3 years) and we have a little girl together. The only trouble is my heart doesn't jump a beat anymore when I see him. In fact when I see/speak to him I just feel really empty inside.

We live together which is just making it worse. When he works late, I pretend I'm asleep so I don't have to talk to him.

I did want to get married when he asked me but recently I have not wanted to have any talk about weddings or marriage.

I don't want to hurt him. Or my family as they love him.

But I'm not sure if how I'm feeling is to do with the wedding or if I just don't feel the same way anymore.

Sorry for the long post. Any help you could give me I would appreciate it.

[confusionoftheillusion]

Has anything happened to make you feel like this?

Did he used to make your heart jump?

[hellsbellsmelons]

This is tough.
Is there any way he would agree to counselling together.
Find out why you have lost any feelings for him.
Or counselling on your own to understand what is going on with you.

I called off a wedding 6 months before it went ahead.
I knew I didn't love him.
I knew I was going through with it all for everyone else.
For his family and my family because he was like their son / brother etc...
It was hard going for a little while but I'm so glad I didn't do it.
If you don't want this you don't want it.
But be kind and finish it sooner rather than later.
Having to tell everyone the wedding is off is no fun at all!!