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Feeling second best to porn

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Blank0307 Tue 28-Jun-16 23:50:18

Hi, I love my husband very much but just recently I feel he's gone off me yet he still watches porn. I've always known he watches it and it never usually bothers me as long as he remembers he has the real thing at home.
We've recently had a baby and although he says he still finds me attractive I've noticed his sex drive isn't what it used to be.
I've even bought sexy underwear to spice things up but he's still says he's too tired or he's not in the mood.
I get that this could be my hormones talking but it's really getting me down. He knows my thoughts on porn. I don't want to ban him from it but I miss feeling attractive. What should I do?

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Braceface2015 Wed 29-Jun-16 12:19:27

Hi I'm more of a lurker usually but saw u had no responses, personally I think porn in a relationship ends up being a problem, men get desensitised to it and sometimes use it instead of sex, I can't live with my dh using it and he's had to make a choice. You sound a bit down on yourself and I know how that feels especially if he's not making you feel wanted, I'm sure in time you will feel more like yourself it takes me a good year after having a baby to get my mojo back, sorry I don't have better advice just wanted you to know you aren't alone

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adora1 Fri 08-Jul-16 17:03:09

A LTR takes effort and kindness a lot of the time, that includes showing your partner love and affection as well as intimacy, if he is preferring a dirty vid to the real thing then I think you do have a problem.

And btw, don't feel second best, it's him who is failing, not you, you sound like you are trying, it's a two way street OP.

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