Hi
Please don't judge me, I want to share my story and hopefully gain some advice.
I'm 29 and married with a 3 year old. I've been married for 5 years, together with hubby for 9 years now. My husband is an asexual, he has very little interest in sex and over the years I have come to realise I am more and more depressed about this. For the first 6 months of our relationship sex was good, it dried up very quickly but my naive self thought this was normal. After we married, we bought a house and decided to try for a baby, this meant he was put completely out of his comfort zone but to his luck baby making happened very quickly.
The past year we have been having some relationship troubles, for many different reasons and we have considered now going to relate. I started a new job in February where I work quite closely with this man (who is 6 years my junior) but there is something so appealing about him. We have been flirting and texting (professionally) but after going out a few weeks ago and getting drunk, our relationship seems to have become a bit deeper. Nothing happened, we had a dance and he basically admitted to liking me and wish I wasn't taken. I now can't get him out of my mind, all I can think about is getting to work on Thursday evening and kissing him.
I am extremely emotionally connected to my husband and I can think clearly about all this - I know I am feeling sexually frustrated and because I'm being paid some attention, I feel sexy and wanted like I've wanted to feel for ages. I have asked my husband to try and overcome his asexuality but it isn't going to happen and now I am concerned that I will be living the rest of my life feeling like this. It is nothing to do with love (or lack of), it's purely a sexual thing and I don't know what to do. I am not in love with this man from work but I do want to engage in sexual activities with him.
Anyone have any experience of being married to an asexual or any advice on how I can overcome these desires for the man at work?
Feeling lost right now 😢
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