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Interferring families

(5 Posts)
Xjenx89x Tue 28-Jun-16 09:57:03

Ok so this may be abit long. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 & 1/2 years we have a 5 month baby girl, I'm on maternity leave until August and we are currently living with my parents..We have our own house but living here whilst we do the house up. So my boyfriend goes to the house after work and on weekends to do the house and its near complete...the only thing that needs doing is a new kitchen, bearing in mind the kitchen looks like its from the 70's and not the cleanist...not a fitted one just new cupboard doors and worktops which all in will cost about £250 but I have been told I cannot get the kitchen done yet and we should move in and do it in time. Now my boyfriend is a taxi driver and already has a car which is on finance which is not yet paid off but he has just gone and signed for another car which is totalling £16,000 and also has to find £420 for a deposit. And because I want a new kitchen his mum is telling him it seems like I dont want to move out of my parents house to live with him and our daughter. Now he has rang me up calling me selfish etc so I said I was pissed off about his mum commenting on it as it has nothing to do with her and me saying that just caused more trouble. It escalated and he ended up saying that because I've not packed any boxes I'm a lazy bastard a cheeky twat and said how hard is it to pack boxes its not like you have to look after the baby as you just stick her in her toy all day (which I dont) and also threatened to be a 'weekend' dad. So I text his mum to ask what was wrong with him and what had been said whem he spoke to her about it and he said im out of order and had no right to text his mum about it. So anyway my dad took it upon himself to speak to him about the name calling and now my boyfriend has took offence to this and moved out of my parents and is living in our home. Today he rings me to say hes spoken to his mum this morning and she thinks my dad is out of order for getting involved in our argument...which I'm pretty sure she had already done that by tellin him I didnt want to move out. Also the same happened a few weeks ago with his soster boyfriend callin her names eg a slag a fat dog and he was going to have a word with him but he thinks its acceptable to call me the names he callede because they were different. Really dont know what to think or do as I'm absolutely baffled as to why this has happened.

ChicRock Tue 28-Jun-16 10:02:35

Don't move in with him.

Don't have any more children with him.

Go back to work in August.

Get your own place.

If either of you don't want your parents interfering, then both of you stop involving your parents in your arguments.

Costacoffeeplease Tue 28-Jun-16 10:04:49

^ This

Mellowautumn Tue 28-Jun-16 12:50:42

As above

hellsbellsmelons Tue 28-Jun-16 13:49:27

Well isn't he a delight!?
Stay at your parents for now.
His awful name calling is a massive red flag.

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