Hi all,
I am a full time Mum to a 2 year old. Husband works full time. We have no family or friends nearby to assist with Childcare. That is fine on a day to day basis but just recently have been trying to find part time work as our budget is so tight I need to earn some money for my own sanity ( hair cuts, clothes and days out for my daughter - all of which are not included in our budget at the moment) I used to work full time before my daughter was born.
The problem is my husband works random shift work so my work would have to fit around him but he has always had his shifts in advance.
So its taken me a while but I have found a job! its perfect! I have accepted the job and my husband appeared to be pleased but when it came to getting the calender out for my availability he states he does not know his shifts after July! When I asked him about it he got angry and said his work were shit and wont tell him. I explained that that is just not practical and they have to inform him of his hours ( he is on a full time contract and works for a large company - he is on a secondment to a different department for 6 months and that's finishing at end of july)
My problem is that he actually got annoyed at me...we tried to talk about it and he stated that my job was not important to his manager. I pointed out that many families have to have both parents at work to afford bills so if that were our case they were preventing us from paying our bills!
I asked how many times he had requested his shift pattern and if he had told them it was due to arranging childcare and he said once and that was two weeks ago.
So I feel that is too little effort! He just does not seem to think I am being fair and I am struggeling to understand how he thinks I am unreasonable! Its really upset me.
So any advice? I want to go into his work and ask for the money I am missing out on if they do not tell him his shifts but that obviously is not suitable! And I know he is stressed at work but maybe he will be less stressed if I can bring money in too!
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