So,single for life late 30s,how bad is it!

[TheseAreTheDays]

I'm tired of it. Tonight because I wanted him to wear his wedding ring on a week long business trip abroad I got told I was a psycho bitch same as the crazy psycho bitch I was the day he met me. For context he doesn't usually wear it Mon to Fri for legitimate work reasons. Weekends there's no reason he can't wear it but he prob only wears 25-33%of time. Today he was packing for trip and said "what else do I need?" I said don't forget wedding ring, it was next to me so I passed to him. He said put it in bag I'll put on after shower. I said calmly sure put on now, you'll forget later (he always does,it'll stay bottom of bag entire trip) He says fuck sake what's your problem you're always the same psycho bitch etc etc. This wasn't trying to brand him or stop him going to bars etc while he's away just a) why not wear it when he can, and b) why call me a psycho bitch for wanting my husband to wear a ring.

We have two kids, 3 and 1, both quite high needs at moment for different reasons so not sure why he's so keen to leave them alone with such a psycho! I guess I wish I had support right now instead of attacks from him

[TheseAreTheDays]

To be clear on thread title, I've just had enough of his moods/name calling/non participation in family routine so I'm at the stage where I want to call it quits. I'm realistic in that I've two kids, I'm in my late 30s and I'm nothing special so I'm happy to remain single now. Just looking for reassurance that it won't be too awful right?!

[PrettyDumb]

Wow... That sounds tough. I think you need to sit down and discuss your future together. You need to know where you stand.

[TheMorningAfterTheNightBefore]

Well, it can be pretty lonely. But nothing like the loneliness of a shit marriage.

My exh didn't wear a wedding ring for most of the marriage because he, legitimately, lost it. It never bothered me. My friend's husband never wears his, and it never bothers her.

I don't think the ring is the issue here. Even if he put it on, there is not guarantee he would leave it on, or that he would respect it, or that other women would do either. You clearly don't trust him. That is the issue.

[SomeonesRealName]

I think the horrible abuse is the issue here. Calling you a crazy psycho bitch is domestic abuse. Name calling is domestic abuse. Baseless questioning of your mental health is domestic abuse. Power play over the wearing of a wedding ring is domestic abuse.

[Chasingsquirrels]

There is obviously lots of issues in your marriage that you need to deal with.

BUT splitting up from your husband in your late 30's with two small children DOES NOT mean you will remain single forever, although equally you may choose to.

[Piemernator]

I'm sure there is even more to your tale.

No one knows what the outcome will be if you choose to leave him but your obviously not happy at all and the situation your a tually in sounds terrible.

No relationship is better than a bad one.

My friend has been single since she broke up with her ex, so around 15 years. My Mother was not single for a moment and had small DC when she moved from husband to husband, she was an alluring creature that men couldn't resist.

Very different outcomes but they both decided to leave their awful partners.