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On the verge of a nervous breakdown

(13 Posts)
ScenicHoney Sat 25-Jun-16 14:17:56

So this week I lost my dad and today we had the cremation, my partner started this big argument about me having left the house as a pig sty (which is true) and my weight.

I had to travel to go to the funeral and so I'm not at home at the moment.

I work long hours and I have only recently started this job and it's taking a toll on me then my dad was brought into hospital and my level of stress went sky-high. Anyway he's right there. I just don't think this was the right moment to tell me all the things he told me.

He also went on about how I have this typical deception about my obesity and proceeded to tell me that it's fine, he'll probably run off with someone else in a year (he is heavier than me).

How I do I keep my sanity? I feel like I'm going crazy.

Afreshstartplease Sat 25-Jun-16 14:19:56

WTF

You kick him to the curb

Orchidflower1 Sat 25-Jun-16 14:20:35

So sad for your loss and your worry. Just breathe- slow and steady. Take each moment at a time. flowers

PeppasNanna Sat 25-Jun-16 15:38:25

flowers so sorry for you loss.

I've never ever told anyone to LTB but please, think about what your partner did when you were so incredibly vulnerable...

Look after yourself. Make yourself your top priority. Surround yourself with caring & kind people. X x x

nicenewdusters Sat 25-Jun-16 16:08:15

You're not going crazy. You've lost your dad and the person who should be supporting you is being a nasty git. I should imagine staying away from him will enable you to keep your sanity.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 Sat 25-Jun-16 16:29:54

What sort of horrible man kicks the woman he's supposed to love while she's already down?

Ignore the nasty twat for today and concentrate on yourself and getting through it. Then tomorrow ask why he chose the day of your fathers funeral to berate you for your weight and threaten to run off and leave. Ask why he would be so cruel on such a hard day - then pack his bags and tell him where to go.

I think the measure of a good partner is how they react/ treat you when tough times hit. A good one offers love, comfort and support. Your partner saw your vulnerability as an opportunity to stick the knife in sad flowers

Lookatyourwatchnow Sat 25-Jun-16 16:33:49

Fucking kick him out! How DARE he?

smilingeyes11 Sat 25-Jun-16 17:37:49

So sorry about your Dad.

I will join the chorus of LTB too - you deserve so much more than this vile man in your life!

pinkyredrose Sat 25-Jun-16 17:42:00

So sorry for your loss flowers just try and get through the coming days as best you can. When you're feeling stronger you'll be able to make any needed changes to empower you and make your life more positive. Hopefully that will include getting rid of him. He sounds like dead weight and a nasty arsehole to boot.

thewookieswife Sat 25-Jun-16 18:23:08

(((Hugs))) so sorry for your loss of your dad and so sorry your partner is turning out to be not very supportive.
(I know MN doesn't approve of hugs - but sometimes surely it's ok to bend the rules )
Don't know what to advise as we are all different - but do know that you sound like a lovely person who's had an exceptionally crap week ... I do hope things start looking up soon flowers

Orchidflower1 Sat 25-Jun-16 21:31:11

Hi op just to say I hope you manage some sleep tonight. Take care of yourself xx

DanglyEarOrnaments Sat 25-Jun-16 21:41:23

I am so very very sorry for your loss which I understand personally very well, I hope that when all of the dust settles you can find the strength of a lion and make yourself a wonderful new life without this man/drain on your resources. dragging on you.

You need to be really, really strong, when you are ready to be, and get this fucker far far away from you. Then you can forget the damage to your person and build yourself a whole new life twat free! flowers

Isetan Sat 25-Jun-16 23:47:53

It really isn't a coincidence that he's chosen this moment, to unload his bile onto you. This isn't a nice man, limit your exposure to this fuckwit and let him go, so he is free to find his next unsuspecting victim.

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