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Right Person Wrong Time

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livlove123 Fri 24-Jun-16 03:58:19

Hi, my boyfriend and I are going through a breakup. He's my first love and I'm his and we've been together for almost 9 months. He's ending it with me for many reasons. He feels he's too young for such a committed relationship given that we talked about doing 2-3 years long distance because I graduate in one year but he graduates in 3. He also feels he can't give me what I want given that his free time is limited and getting even smaller with school and sports. I truly love him and he feels the same. My question is is do you think we will be able to get back together when the time is right (which would be in about 3 years) assuming we still feel the same? And does anyone have any stories of getting back with their first love after years apart?

OnePlanOnHouzz Fri 24-Jun-16 10:05:35

If your love is meant to be it will be ! Keep the faith in it - but also go out and socialise - don't become a wallflower waiting for the time to pass - it will pass much faster if you go out and have fun !!! Give him the space he needs to study and do his sports and maybe agree to one email or phone call a month - but no more - and keep those happy calls /emails don't waste time saying how much you miss him etc - keep upbeat and you'll keep him interested !!

Good luck - have fun - and don't forget to study too !!! Make yourself as and qualified for life as you can !

OnePlanOnHouzz Fri 24-Jun-16 10:06:57

*as happy and as qualified

Anna44 Fri 24-Jun-16 13:58:50

If it's meant to be it's meant to be and it will all work out.

Love and relationships are hard things which in time you'll work out and live it for yourself, the ups and downs and the rollercoaster ride!

You'll be wanting people here to say "don't worry of cause you'll get back together" but realistically you need to go and live your life to the full and if he is around then great but if he's not around then it has to be equally great.... make new friends, have fun and laugh often. He'll be there if he wants too and you'll be there for him, if it's true love then it will all work out in the end!

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