Had a very bad break up about 6 weeks ago after a 5 year EA relationship, which I have written about on here. Wasn't looking for anything else for a while, but was starting to feel good about myself again after being torn down by someone who is a massive twat!
Anyway, last Friday I met a guy at a party. I really wasn't looking for anything but he was very good looking and seemed to be only showing me any interest. My friends knew him and said he was a huge player & a gazillion girls fancied him, so I really wasn't bothered, but after speaking to him we got on really well so I gave him my number.
We didn't text much but he asked me for a date the following Wednesday so I agreed without any expectation. I almost didn't go because I really wasn't bothered, I didn't dress up or put much make up on or anything but I thought hey, it might be nice to meet someone new and it's just a drink after work and he is very nice to look at!
We actually had a really great date - I got quite drunk but we had great chemistry and shared a few kisses. He surprised me with how clever and nice he was, not to mention completely gorgeous! We held hands and he told me he couldn't wait to see me again. He asked if this weekend was too soon, and I said no, it's fine so we arranged to meet on Saturday.
In between, I barely had any contact. He would be online on Whatsapp, but then not read or reply to my messages for hours. I assumed he had lost interest and that we weren't going to meet, but he then on the day he asked if I still wanted to meet later.
We had such a great time on Saturday - a date he chose which was very romantic and we had good banter and heavy flirting. Unfortunately we drank a lot of wine again and I missed my last train home! I phoned a few friends who lived nearby to stay at theirs, but this was about 2am so no one was answering...
I ended up staying at his. Having missed er, physical company, I ended up sleeping with him. I didn't feel pressured, just a body over mind moment (plus lots of wine) and it was pretty damn good.
He was fine in the morning. I expected him to kick me out but he didn't, he was loving and affectionate in the morning. We had a long lie in together and when I had to leave, he got the train with me to where I was going to drop me off and had his arm round me the whole time, was nuzzling my hair and kissing me.
We text a little bit yesterday, with him initiating questions etc. But now he's back to the 5 hour no replies, etc. I can't remember if we said we'd meet up again, I think he did ask for next weekend but I'm going away so couldn't.
Have I mucked this up? How do I play this? I was with my ex for over 5 years and we started dating when I was 18, so I have no idea what to do. I don't really want to ask him to meet up, I feel like as he is a 'player' and doesn't text much, I should leave the ball in his court. I'm not expecting a relationship - it is probably too soon - but I wouldn't mind hanging out more. Is this normal? I just have no idea! Please help!
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heybabes · 20/06/2016 15:27
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