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What to expect after 2.5 years

(7 Posts)
Unsettled72 Sun 19-Jun-16 09:55:07

Im just asking the question i just feel crap all the time

Been with a guy for this amount of time and he does to a lot for me. Building a patio, decorating etc and he comes over 4-6 nights a week depending if he has his kids but

1. I still havent met his kids
2. i have only met two of his friends
3. Never met his family
4. Never been out in his home town

Im 44 and i just feel unsettled all the time. I know what a relationship feels like and although i love him i just feel my self esteem being eroded. I dont know if he is embarrassed by me. He says he isnt. One minute he says he wants to live with me next no mention of it again. I just feel broken hearted all the time and waiting for him to have a road to Damascus moment but its never going to happen is it

emilybrontescorset Sun 19-Jun-16 10:01:21

This is not normal.

I would say you want to arrange a date and time to go and meet his family.
If doesn't have to be a formal arrangement but you really need to meet his dc.

Gas he given any reason as to why you haven't met them?

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 19-Jun-16 10:04:14

I would think he is still married

Unsettled72 Sun 19-Jun-16 10:12:13

No he isnt still married. Not on paper anyway.
He puts things in boxes. Im in one box. work in another. friends in another, and family in another. I would think he is a commitmentphobe if anything

TheNaze73 Sun 19-Jun-16 11:04:24

When I left my ex, I was badly let down by my own family, who blamed me for everything. 3 years after, I met someone, who I couldn't let my family meet, to protect them.

There are always exonerating circumstances, it's only been 2.5 years, people express love in different ways. Ignore the judgey stuff others are saying op. They obviously don't know his back story, which is the issue here

Unsettled72 Sun 19-Jun-16 11:18:49

Thanks Naze

I just feel really sad about it all. I know his parents are very judgey by what he says and were disappointed that his marriage broke up

SoThatHappened Sun 19-Jun-16 13:56:38

When i met a partner a few years ago things were very very bad with my family.

It was hard to dodge questions eventually.

Youve been together long enough to ask him. If he won't talk that is more cause for concern.

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