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Weekend loneliness

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UnderTheStars21 · 18/06/2016 17:10

Hi everyone am sat at home on yet another weekend with this almost unbearable feeling of loneliness. It's almost a physical pain. I have lots of friends but if I see them it's usually during the week. I work full time and have 2 grown up kids who do their own thing. Does anyone else feel like this. I would like to go to concerts films etc but have no-one to go with. Don't mean to sound self pitying just would like some ideas on how to deal with this feeling

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concertplayer · 18/06/2016 17:17

See if there is a club/group that you could join that reflects your interests.

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SoleBizzz · 18/06/2016 18:29

I woukd join a private health club and go swimming. I woukd learn to ride a horse. I woukd join a bicycle riding/country walking group. Evening educational /vicational/craft group. I woukd join Meetup.com. Join the Facebook group Women's Advice Group you can meet people there. I woukd go to the cinema alone and eat out alone as I often do anyway. Find old school friends on Facebook. Volunteer your time at weekends. Visit your local voluntary bureau. Visit national Trust places. Drive to a beach during the late afternoon. Meetup will help .

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whydidhesaythat · 18/06/2016 18:37

Ooh I last felt that feeling in1992 but I remember it it is awful!

What do you think of the ideas above?

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SoleBizzz · 18/06/2016 18:44

Buy a dog? A few weeks ago I stated I had nobody to watch a live band with upon the venues Facebook page. Got reply from a Lady who was going and met her and her two friends. We keep in touch and will meet again.

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SoleBizzz · 18/06/2016 18:46

But.. this is a huge step for you posting on here. You realise something has to change.. Use Youtube and watch Louise Hay videos. Say to yourself over and over I love myself and everybody loves me. Try it even if it feels really silly odd etc keep saying it and watch your life change

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Resilience16 · 18/06/2016 19:03

Hey Under, I am in exactly the same situation this weekend, feel like I'm climbing the walls! Particularly as I've not got my daughter tonight and feel like I'm wasting a childfree opportunity, arrrgh!
I've gone to concerts, pubs,cinema etc on my own before, doesn't usually bother me but I'm feeling a bit woe is me tonight, probably cos the sun is shining and I'm imagining everyone else out there having fun!
Am going to try some of the suggestions above, particularly meetup.com as had never heard of them before.
Thank you people, and hugs of solidarity to you Under x

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ittooshallpass · 18/06/2016 19:07

I have a rare child free Saturday night too and feel like I'm wasting it... would love to be out... but it's not to be. So. Wine open. Chocs out. Movie on...

I know that doesn't help you much OP but just wanted to let you know you're not alone. 🍹

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Left · 18/06/2016 19:21

Same here... None of my friends are free this weekend and DC at dads. Hot water bottle, wine and crappy tv, possibly gym tomorrow morning.

There are so many shows and films I want to see - might start going on my own but also look for a weekend hobby X

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UnderTheStars21 · 18/06/2016 19:29

Thanks everyone for your replies. It does help to hear that not everyone else is having an amazing weekend which is what I imagine in my head. I do have a dog but the conversation is pretty one sided. Will def have a look at meet up and also Louise Hay. I tend to spend all weekend catching up on chores housework shopping etc.
Sending hugs to anyone else feeling the same this weekend