In a relationship for around 18 months now all good. DP is younger than me by six years - I am mid 40's. So DP are the same, never wanted children (should point out I have one DD who's 14, he has none) . DP has always stated as well that he believed himself to be pretty much infertile. All the time we have been together neither of us have used any protection, me believing age was firmly against conceiving couple with him saying he didn't think he was able to conceive.
I'm late.
Told DP as he was aware my period had not showed up. Although he's never wanted or had children his first reaction was one of elation really, he said just through pure ego that it turns out his swimmers were capable after all! However as stated, neither of us has any desire for a child together. It did cross my mind for a moment a fear that now he knew he was able to, he might run off and leave me for a younger model who he could have kids with - of course he said this would never happen (seen one or two of those threads though haven't we....)
The dilemma is this, I am going next week to take the pill to end the pregnancy - I am no more than a two maybe three weeks into it. Should I tell him the specifics of this or just tell him I have come on spontaneously? It seems kinder to do the latter as pointing out the former might be a blow to him even though he doesn't want children i.e. the one time he has 'managed' it it's going to be stopped in it's tracks. I know he isn't sentimental about it on the surface but people can have funny reactions can't they?
So my gut reaction is to just tell him I have come on my period myself (and of course put contraception into play now) and not tell him I've actually gone ahead and terminated the pregnancy by pill. I just think that will save him any "what if" type thoughts that he may not have even thought he was capable of having. Not saying he would, but just in case.
Thoughts?
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I think I'm right not to tell him but opinions please (may be triggering)
LesisMiserable · 15/06/2016 18:54
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