I was in a long relationship..I left and now live on my own.
Over the years there has been a man (in a place I won't say but used to visit every so often, he had access to my number) We always caught each other's eye and there was always something flirty there. I wasn't long into my relationship and he messaged me (basically flirting) nothing has ever happened & I told him I was taken..end of.
Fast forward 8 years & im
Now single. Imagine my shock when he contacts me again (he found out I was single after hinting when he last saw me) imagine the mix of 'it's too soon' jumbled up with 'my god he's gorgeous!'
At first I wouldn't see him, I wasn't ready for anything, he kept saying life's short and it progressed.
We met up. Looking back out and about in public..he came to mine.. a few weeks later we slept together. He is a totally obsessed gym goer, not pumped up but just perfect figure..he lives at the gym practically..at first this didn't bother me..but times passed. He seemed to almost 'fit me in' with free nights and I started to get suss. Due to previous relationship issues I started to worry and asked him outright if he was married..I got back a yes but the usual I'm just plodding along etc..I was shocked.
I am totally ashamed to say I met him again a couple of times after I found this out just to lay out how I felt, how wrong it is and how upset I am. He basically in a nut shell said it was fate messaging me and wished he could leave her but can't watch her face drop. I told him he was obviously content and to carry on his life without me..He blazenly said he understood and would leave me alone. He didn't though and we messaged back and forth with me ranting and him trying to justify things..I deleted his number and he did the same. A couple of weeks ago he messaged me again, said he had written my number down. I have told him to carry on with his life & wife..he says he sees me as a great friend and misses me and wants to meet..I've said no and it's madness to think we can just be 'friends?' today I blocked him. I feel gutted but know he's not mine, I feel crap for his wife and can't intentionally do the dirty on someone I don't know and feel sorry for her. Guess i just feel lost, fed up and gutted as he's too good to be true..obviously.
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