Ive name changed.
Friend is actually a family member and we were best friends for many years. She moved away to another part of the UK about 5 years ago and of course we havent been as close and saw each other maybe twice a year when one of us travelled to visit. Over the past 3 years or so we have kept in touch via whatsapp and phonecalls and ive been to visit her a couple of times. One other time was planned but she cancelled it with a few days' notice saying she was working. She has been 'home' several times over the last 3 years and because all her and her partner's family are here she of course has lots of people to visit when she is here but every time she says she will come to see me, meet for lunch or coffee and leaves it as vague as that and then it never happens. When i say she is home, i mean staying with her parents 5 minutes drive away and will be visiting other family, some of which are less than 1 minutes walk from my house. It would be very easy to call in with me. Anyway, she was home this weekend, arrived on friday and left today. I saw her on sunday at her son's birthday party, but of course only got a couple of minutes snatched conversation. So i asked if she was free to have lunch yesterday and she said maybe. I left it at that. When it was time to leave i couldnt find her. I said goodbye to her partner and their son and i sent her a message saying that i couldnt find her but if she couldnt come and have lunch at least call in to my work (which is in the town where she is staying and all the family she is visiting live) and see me before she goes back. She replied that she would definitely see me before she goes. Yesterday came and went and nothing from her then she sent a message this morning saying she was away back now and there is never enough time to see anyone.
Tbh i'm angry. Its exactly what i knew would happen because it always does so i dont know why i am angry but it hurts. She came home once a few weeks ago and texted me saying she had been home but was away back now. Why even text me to tell me that? We're clearly not the friends i thought we were. I feel ridiculous for being so hurt by this. I guess i just let the friendship go now. Its very clear i'm the only one thinking there is a friendship there. But she is always saying she cant wait to see me and my children. And definitely we'll get lunch etc. I feel like crap, like i could burst into tears at any minute (i wont, i'm in work.) I'm supposed to be visiting her this summer with my DC (her invitation), this would be our family holiday but i'm actually thinking i dont want to go now. We could have a a nice few days camping or something with that money instead of paying to go and see someone who cant call in and see me for 5 minutes when theyre in my town.
I dont know what i'm asking really. Just need to get this off my chest.
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Im felling pathetically hurt by this friend.
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HintTaken · 14/06/2016 14:32
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