Wondering if there is a way out of this mess.
DH has run up substantial debts whilst setting up his business, all in his name, but won't show me any banks statements etc. Meanwhile we are living on a very limited budget, financed by my job. We agreed when we first got together that I'd do all the household budgeting (he said he wasn't great at it - oh God how I wish I'd listened to that), and I asked him to use the joint account so we could budget. He didn't. He's now bringing in some money but has, without telling me, started using the joint account to pay for his things. Fine, except that I haven't budgeted for this and he won't ('can't' according to DH) tell me how much of his income will come into the joint account. Am I right to be pissed off about this?
He doesn't know that I've realised he's using the joint account. I want to get my head straight before I discuss this with him and not be brushed off, like I normally am. It normally ends with 'I'm trying my hardest, what more can I do' and I feel like I'm being unreasonable and left hamstrung. He has depression so it's a bit catch 22 - push too hard and it makes things worse. He won't talk about it and won't go to counselling 'because we haven't talked'.
Is there a solution, other than threatening to leave?
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TeaAnd2Sugars · 13/06/2016 11:16
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