Dh and I have a very unequal relationship when it comes to money. It has slowly developed over the years, it wasn't always this way. It has now got to the point where I have no money of my own, every penny I earn goes towards household bills yet dh gets back money for himself for hobbies, socialising etc. I am not happy but feel trapped. When I try to broach the situation with him, he is full of excuses and reasons of why it is this way and I end up believing him. I am beginning to think this is financial abuse. He is otherwise kind and caring. Recently we have had a run of bad luck and had to pay various unexpected expenses which has put a big strain on our finances yet dh seems unwilling to cut back and face up to it. This makes me feel like it's my problem to sort out.
I want to work this through. I don't want to leave him yet how can he treat me like this when he promises he loves me and I am the most important thing to him. We have 3 dc and both work. I worry there is an underlying selfishness that may never go away.
Can we fix this?
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popperdoodles · 11/06/2016 11:13
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