I need some common sense here, please advise:
I am a single parent and I have been in a new relationship for about six months now. My new partner and I live in different cities, not far, but still a train-ride away.
My question is a financial one as I just can't work out what's fair.
When my new partner and I out in the evening, I pay for childcare (his own child is much older so no childcare costs needed) and it is mounting up hugely.
I usually end up paying for the train fare to his town, my 50% of dinner (we always split it) childcare costs and then taxi back home in my town. He, meanwhile, pays for his half of the dinner, and public transport home, and nothing else.
I recently realised that I was spending around £120 per evening in such scenarios and this is just not acceptable - I simply can't afford it (this is happening three or four times per month).
Should I ask my new partner to split childcare costs with me when we go out on dates? We are otherwise completely financially independent of each other.
This is clearly my own expenditure, but OUR time together that is proving a lot more expensive for me than it is for him. I don't want to spoil the romantic dates, but I simply cannot continue like this.
What's fair?
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Childcare costs when out on dates - what is fair?
ConfusedInNorthLondon · 11/06/2016 00:13
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