Not sure if this should be in relationships or divorce/separation.
Going though divorce. (ex left for another woman). His proposal is to have the kids (there are 4, aged between 13 and 6) EOW and two weeks in the holidays (e.g. a week at christmas and a week in the summer). No more than this - believe I have tried to get him to see them more but he has now moved 100 miles away so week nights contact is impossible and he's adament he wants most of his annual leave entitlement to himself.
He is a high earner but his divorce and maintenance proposal is minimal (something I am pursuing via court) . I get that I will have to go back to work obviously, having not worked for at least 10 years to bring up the kids and follow him abroad whilst he built his career. My earnings potential is very much reduced as I was previously a professional in a environment that required long hours. Plus I cannot just go back to a job like this as I have not kept up my professional experience through being a SAHM.
I'm rambling but I guess my question is, how on earth do I work and cover all the school holidays/inset days/sickness etc etc that 4 kids entail (for the next 2/3 years they will be in three different schools). I don't have much family support and I am in a flat panic and can't think straight but trying to understand how people do it on their own. Any advice or personal experience appreciated (or just a kick up the arse to tell me it will all be fine)
Currently studying as a form of revision so I can go back into my former professional area albeit at a much more junior and less pressured level.
(I know the obvious is to get a job in a school or school office and I have tried - also I'm really not suited to TA work. I find my own kids utterly exhausting, but lovely, and would rather do something totally unrelated to children) Thanks
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Following on from thread about custody - help me with ex's proposition
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Palepowder · 10/06/2016 12:28
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