Long story short I've been single for the majority of my life. I've worked hard, have a good job, nice home and a teenager who I have a great relationship with. I work out and look after myself and think I'm a pretty good egg really.
When I turned 40 I thought maybe it was time to find myself a man. Frankly I would love to have someone who could be a friend and lover to spend time with. Is this really asking a lot?
So I started internet dating last autumn. Since then I have been on a series of dates which is rather taking its toll emotionally. Some have been good, others terrible. The most recent is a little younger than me, good looking, funny and we share a lot of interests. We went on a few dates and the chemistry was electric, we ended up in bed together and had pretty good sex (maybe a bit quick but he was a quite excitable).
Fast forward a week and he's got cold feet.... Says things are going too quick and he doesn't know if he's ready for a relationship. He says he thinks I'm amazing and doesn't know what I see in him and he's worried people will think he's not good enough for me 😒 I've told him we can just slow it down and spend some time together as friends but I don't know if I'm setting myself up for a fall.
Part of me wonders if I should just chill and see what happens or should I just knock it on the head now... I'm supposed to be seeing him at lunchtime.
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Snowfire · 09/06/2016 10:37
From experience Snowfire I'd just see how it goes and prepare yourself for it not going anywhere.
Slightly older than you but had some experience of OLD and there does seem to be a particular thing with men that when it looks like it could get serious they run for the hills usually with a version of 'it's not you it's me line'.
I think the men I'm attracted to tend to have pretty full and interesting lives and in their mind they would like 'a friend and lover' to spend time with but the truth of the matter is they realise they don't want to compromise their lives in any way and there just isn't room for a relationship.
Not sure if that may resonate with you?
Good luck anyway 
Oh snowfire had that one too 
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It seems there's nothing better to reignite a dead relationship than finding out your ex has met someone else (the voice of bitter experience - in my case they'd allegedly been split for 18 before he met me but three months in he thought they might give it another ago).
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