I'm struggling to see what my part was in this. I'm trying to take a balanced view but the fact is he wants sex more than me like all the time and for years I went along with it but these days I think I shouldn't have to go along with it just to keep the peace. He thinks that I should be flattered that he still finds me attractive, we are, on the surface, a good team but that's only when I don't assert myself too much.
I had one counselling session last week, on my own, I talked with the counsellor about setting boundaries in the relationship and I've been thinking (hoping) that I could define what was acceptable to me then H and I could stay married. BTW We've been married for 25+ years and kids have left home.
Anyway, here's the point: H wanted sex this morning, I said no. In my politest boundary-defining way I said no, let's just stay in bed and chat. He went into an almighty strop and stomped out of the room. Then he got ready for work and left in a huff.
I'll add, the last time we had sex (at his insistence) wouldn't be more than a week ago so it's not like it's been months. H has, in the past, asked me to 'liven myself up' and get HRT or 'female viagra' off the internet, to be fair I did tell him where to go with that idea. It might be partly ageing or hormones but I don't see any point in pursuing that. If he would suddenly become a nice person I might make an effort but for now I just want some opinions here on what happened this morning...he shouldn't have responded like that, right?
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If I say no to sex, H shouldn't sulk. Right?
MrsMcBoatface · 06/06/2016 08:24
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