I have been in a very difficult relationship with a 'functioning' alcoholic for just over a year.
I realised that it was turning verbally abudive and that my mental health was suffering and sought help from my go, a book called 'why does he do that?' And my renal physiologist. Anyway to cut a long story short I blocked him from my phone and started to move on. He wouldn't let go and let himself into my house drunk and fell asleep on the sofa. I was scared to wake him so got my adult sons to do it and throw him out. This seemed to be a turning point and he claimed that he was cutting down the drinking and didn't want to lose us. I saw him a couple of times for cycles/dog walks but nothing more. Anyway Friday night we went a family dog walk with him, during the walk he admitted he had drunk 2 bottles of wine before he met us and he had about 8 pints when we were out. I told him I wasn't going home with him and he should go home. We live very close to each other and he ended up back at mine where he was annoyed as my younger son (17) was asleep on the sofa and not in bed. After trying unsuccessfully to wake my son up this guy stood up, pushed me aside starting calling my son horrible names and went to hit him. I pushed the guy back down but my eldest jumped up and punched him in the face twice breaking his nose. It all got quickly out of hand and I called the police. My son has been charged with serious assault but my ex has been help all weekend and charged with domestic abuse! Is this fair/right?
I had to go to my gp as I was so be pressed- my name to him was Chunkers or chunky, he told me no one would ever go out with a single parent with my health conditions, he looked into my face one night and told me I was so ugly but he loves me and that I was crap in bed. When I ended it he tried to give me three love bites on my back so no other man would go to bed with a slut.
He has also been manipulative and give me money and pay for everything when things were bad then saying I would never do you bad turn. He stood me up for my brothers wedding and told me that all his ex's were much prettier and slimmer than me.
I'm so confused if this was domestic abuse and if he deserves the charges against him.
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Domestic abuse charges- is this fair?
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Lipgloss74 · 05/06/2016 11:11
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