DH has a fairly relaxed attitude towards buying gifts for family on his side (they are usually non-existent!). However, his brothers now have wives, and there have been lots of 'firsts' recently: weddings, new homes, babies etc. The in-laws don't expect DH to send things but I feel like, as the woman, it is expected of me. I feel like it reflects badly on me if I don't ensure cards and gifts are purchased and sent. AIBU to think this? Am I expected as the woman to take this on? Should I just not bother? I resent having to put a lot of thought and effort into these gifts, especially since I contribute financially, and DH rolls his eyes at the mere mention of a card/gift. I didn't buy a card for BIL's wedding (we purchased a very expensive gift for them mind) and there were a number of comments made around me (between BIL's wife and MIL) about how unacceptable it is for cards not to be given at weddings and I really felt as though they were being directed at me.
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AIBU to think this reflects badly on me?
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AwkwardAvocado · 04/06/2016 21:34
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