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I am a crazy jealous wife

(7 Posts)
Williammama Sat 04-Jun-16 04:33:23

I think i trust my husband, but sometimes, small things would cause my attention, for his female colleague, start from he start to talk about her all the time, then i feel slight worried, soon, there's more and more signs,for example, he told me he is going go drink with a friend which is a guy, but when he was leaving the house, he said"they are waiting", I was wondering who are they, while i was thinking it is must be her, then about mid night, i called to ask if he need me to help to book taxi with app, then he told me in very unnatural voice, said she is there too. he came back drunk told me his company talking about this girl has gossip with a staff which is very bad. the next day, he said he doesn't remember gossip thing, and also, he said he didn't tell me she is there coz i would jealous, but he said again he told coz he did said they are waiting, they means there someone else. recently i told him i am back to my mum's with baby for a week, he seems very happy, then yesterday he said he is going to travel, if i am home, i am welcome to go with him, i said yes, i will, then he got really surprised and said, he thought i would be in my mums place by that time, i said no, i will go after that then there fight, he said i am jealous...then we had a fight. i need to fix myself, i love him and my family.

Beefles Sat 04-Jun-16 06:09:09

He invited you then got upset that you were going? He is hiding things and acting like it's your fault for being suspicious. He is at fault here. He has created the bad vibes by hiding things. Tell him you can go with him or he can stay home and make his marriage what it should be. Also tell him he's an asshat.

Morasssassafras Sat 04-Jun-16 08:20:30

Or you have a lying cheating husband. From what little you've said I know which I'd bet on.

It's him. He's lying and quite possibly already cheating but he's definitely thinking about it. flowers

RiceCrispieTreats Sat 04-Jun-16 09:08:43

You don't need to fix yourself.

You are feeling unsettled because your instincts are screaming at you that something is wrong. Listen to them.

Yeahthatwasme Sat 04-Jun-16 10:27:56

"Mentionitis" (repeatedly mentioning a woman who you don't know) usually has a root cause. People like to talk about people they have a developing crush on/interest in. It's the first warning sign. Then when something happens (ie they get together) it stops because they don't need to do it any more - the person is actually in their life rather than the fantasy way of keeping them in their mind by talking abouth them.

Williammama Sun 05-Jun-16 08:54:55

He think that's a mistake that he hide from me about drinking with her, but he said coz he didn't want me to feel jealous. He said me and baby are his whole world, he will never ever ruin it.
at the same time, he said unless he didn't kiss or sleep with another woman, means he is faithful. Make feels travel with another woman means he is faithful, unless there's nothing like those happen.
I really love him, and also believe he loves me very much!
met that colleague one day at one of their colleague's wedding, while she is sitting face my husband, same table, i was sitting next to him. she took a long time look at me, and later she talk to my husband, "please help me to eat my cake, I can't finish it." I don't know if I think too much, but i feel like she is challenge me.
I don't want to ruin my marriage and i don't want to hurt him, also, i don't want what i felt is real. that's why i hope it's my problem. very likely he just want to travel alone, or he just didn't want me to feel jealous so he didn't tell me there's a woman drinking with him.
I feel so bad.

RiceCrispieTreats Sun 05-Jun-16 16:26:03

No, your jealousy is not the problem. You are jealous because he is lying to you about spending time with another woman.

His declaration that you and the baby are his world, is just a bunch of pretty words. Look at his actions, Williammama. His actions stink.

You feel bad because you are with a man who doesn't respect you.

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