Briefly, dp and I met three years ago and have a long distance relationship and definitely no end in sight for several more years. We each have a youngest dc of 15 and we're both committed to keeping their home lives stable.
That said, we have a mostly happy relationship when we are together, which is at weekends and also during school holidays.
Here's the however...Even with our restricted time, I still sometimes want some time for just me and I don't think it's unreasonable. He's quite hurt if we don't plan our free time together although he never puts pressure on me, I just feel it. We're getting to the point of not making the effort to chat on the phone as much and I find myself getting very wrapped up in things at my end, to the point, I sometimes wish I was single again. Not for dating but just to be able to do my own thing.
I'm a home owner; he rents and I always seem to have a project on the go. He doesn't need to set time aside for this sort of thing and I feel guilty asking for his help when he's here, as I feel we should be doing nice things together,
I'm at the stage where I'm thinking, perhaps we should end it and we have discussed it. I'm tired of the long journeys and starting to get a little bit resentful and I feel terribly selfish. He wants to keep going and make more effort...me, he means.
We did split for a few months last year but we missed one another and so decided to try again. This time though, I feel like it'd be a great relief. I'm actually very sad but the guilt is the worst part.
Would you end a relationship for these reasons?
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Ending a relationship when dp wants to fix it
hawleybits · 03/06/2016 20:26
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