I'm in the process of getting divorced, so my confidence has taken a big knock. I've been with my DP almost 3 years, but this still feels like a 'new' relationship as much shorter than my almost 20 year marriage and we have never lived together. My new DP is much more vocal about fancying women/women's looks than my ex and I find this unnerving (yet also an attractive quality, something 'manly' about it!). To rub salt in the wound, his ideal look is not me. I lost a lot of weight in the divorce and am now skinny with tiny (and low!) boobs, rather than the J-Lo look that he seems to prefer. I look okay in clothes with the magic of a good bra, but I always hide my body from DP as much as possible, which I hate doing, but just feel so self-conscious. I think the stress of the past few years is catching up with me on my face too, as used to feel pretty, now when I look in the mirror all I see is every line and blemish. He is younger than me and has a job where a lot of women come on to him, so although he is a loyal person and am not worried about cheating, this doesn't exactly help my self-esteem. Does anyone else feel like this, and if so, how do you manage it? Short of botox and surgery, what can I do?!
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