Would you let your dd see their father if he was a narcissist?
Basically dd father didn't bother much with her up until now, last time he saw her was many years ago and even before that he wasn't really that bothered (he once said he would never be her father)!
He contacted me saying he would like to see her, this was months ago!
Lately he doesn't really mention her anymore and is more interested in messing my head up, as I guess I am his narcissistic supply, that he loves to abuse.
I know dd wants to see him but her father is not a nice person (apart from being a narcissist, he suffers from depression and alcoholism) and I'm scared he will mess her up as well.
Only recently I realised he was a narcissist, I guess that explains a lot of things, that I couldn't understand before! Our communication is terrible (which would be a problem), basically because he loves the silent treatment and sometimes he will just start a conversation via text just so I reply back and then he can ignore me. Yes he is sick like that and he is worse now than he was years ago (It really is true that narcissists get worse with age).
So I'm completely confused, because dd wants to see him, I don't actually know what her fathers intentions really are! Do I just say no and then dd will grow up thinking I've stopped her father from seeing her (her father accused me of this even though he was the one that walked away from us to be with someone else, of course! Everything is also always my fault!)? Or do I let him see her and risk him messing her up?
I feel so guilty for getting involved with someone like him, I'm not sure I can ever be happy again, he messed me up that bad! I do everything to give my dd the best life I can and she is doing great, but inside I hurt really bad and everyday I have to pretend that I am ok.
Many thanks
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hurtforever · 01/06/2016 15:31
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