I'm currently 18 weeks pregnant and not having the best time. When I found out I was pregnant I told my partner who decided he didn't want the baby and left me cos I wouldn't have an abortion. Long story short I have been trying to sort things out so he can be a dad (I strongly believe kids should have their dad around) but he hasn't made it easy. Anyway after a whole lot of emotional abuse over the last 18 weeks he started blackmailing and threatening me on Saturday night. I was terrified and went to my parents in a mess. He currently doesn't work and is living in his wife (they separated 4 years ago but never divorced) spare room.
I was so close to calling the police. His wife had text me the night before asking if he was with me (he wasn't) as he had gone missing and she had called the police. He has a history of depression and has tried to commit suicide before. He stopped taking his meds of his own accord and doesn't see a doc as he thinks he can manage it himself.
As well as that on sat he wished me and my baby dead and said he believed he wasn't the dad (he was the only cheat so I can 100% guarantee he his), he swore a lot about his son from his marriage and said he hated him. Obvs that is on top of the threats and blackmail.
He has text me apologising for Sat night but I'm terrified of what he'll do next time he's drunk as this isn't the first time something like this has happened. He's saying he will take me to court for access and I just want to know where I stand? ntil this point I have constantly said he is more than welcome to come to my house as often and for as long as possible to build a relationship with the baby once it's born. Now I don't want him anywhere near us. What rights does he have.
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What rights will the father of my baby have
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babyduenov · 31/05/2016 14:17
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