Partner and I decided to split up (he has been verbally abusive many times and physically abusive once a few weeks ago). We are living under the same roof at the moment as house jointly owned - DC are both under 2.
Yesterday we agreed we wanted split amicably. I told him I wasn't happy. He denied everything he'd done to cause this (the abuse) and basically blames me for the split.
Today he informed me we should see a solicitor tomorrow before we start telling people. I said I had a solicitor and then he went quiet. I said calmly I know it's hard but I think we are doing the right thing. He said that it was all about what I want. Then he started ranting.
"Everyone out there knows what I'm like, you may as well go back to your home town as no-one will believe you if we split up. You will have no friends"
"You have a solicitor lined up ready, you know what you are doing"
"You're taking my kids and screwing me over"
"All my family and friends have given me their full support, they know exactly what you are like"
"I haven't called you any names" (Denies calling me an evil B on multiple occasions).
He also accused me of saying I want more money from him yesterday - I said nothing of the sort.
He then stormed out of the house. He's gone now sigh of relief but God knowd how long for
Can I reasonably stay in the house with him like this?
We haven't even come to sell the house yet but I'm worried if I leave he will stay put and make things difficult for me re: the sale. It is a large house and my share will basically enable me to buy a little house for me and DC. (I'm a SAHM and have no income at the moment).
He can easily stay with family nearby. I have no relatives here. I am just trying to avoid moving twice with two young children really - into a temporary rented home and then into my own when house sale goes through. Would be so much easier to stay here then move with the DCs when this place sells.
Please tell me what you would do in my situation. I am exhausted from thinking.
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PiratesHat · 30/05/2016 11:47
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