I am in a proper 'mean girls' situation at work.
There is a queen bee, who used to be my peer until she was promoted above me after I came back from mat leave (she doesn't have kids - not sure if that's relevant but just to give some context.) Normally I stay out of all the politics and playground nonsense - it's not my MO at all. But this QB thrives on it and I've somehow been sucked in and chewed up.
After she was promoted, our 'big' boss made her my direct boss, which was super awkward and totally lazy team planning on his part. I am very senior at my level and because she's only just been promoted she is now junior at her new level. Obviously not a good idea, but I sucked it up because I didn't want to look petty or like I wasn't a team player. In hindsight I probably should've said something. I dunno.
I should say at this point that no cross words or anything have ever been exchanged between us. I've never said a bad word against her to anyone. She did my appraisal and tore me to shreds in it, when previously my appraisals had been very good. I don't know why she doesn't like me. She just doesn't.
Anyway, she took one of the junior members of my team under her wing and they have formed a little clique together. This totally undermines my position as this junior person's line manager because I know they have regular informal contact outside of work, which is fine, I guess, except that as their friendship has developed, junior person has significantly cooled towards me and our working relationship is suffering - which makes me look bad. ( I think this is partly intentional??)
There was a big social event at the weekend, organised by QB and everyone from our team and extended team, including our 'big' boss, was invited except me. Not that I expected to be invited, or would have gone if I had, but the whole thing felt very pointed and just highlights how badly things have deteriorated in general.
I'm pregnant and due to go on mat leave again in five months. My dilemma is - do I ask to be moved off the team and onto a different one (our company is huge - plenty of other places I could go), or do I just brazen it out and hang in there until I go on mat leave?
If I ask to move teams might I potentially rock the boat and look like I'm flouncing? I'm not sure how I could pitch it right so that our 'big' boss doesn't think I'm making it personal.
If I stay, I really fear my mental and physical heath is going to deteriorate. I'm already incredibly stressed about this and it's impacting my private life. In short, I'm miserable. And even though there's an end in sight, I don't know if I can bear to be this miserable, even just for five more months.
Sorry that was long. Would hugely appreciate others' perspective.
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