I have been married for ten years to a lovely lovely man and we have a four year old child together. He is my best friend but since having our child, I have found myself constantly feeling exhausted, fed up and highly unattractive. So the idea of sex is just daunting and I've avoided it for months and months at a time.
Our child has very challenging behaviour and we get several meltdowns a day so I feel stressed and inadequate. I've had to take a job at my child's pre-school because we are up to our ears in debt and as childcare is not an option I need a job where I can take my child with me but I hate the job. I love the children but it's such a challenging environment to work in and I have to do so much studying for it too. I feel so overwhelmed a lot of the time and sometimes the smallest thing feels like too much. When I look in the mirror I see an old, overweight, unattractive thing and the thought of being touched makes me freeze.
I haven't really ever been mad about sex, I could happily live without it but I've always been able to go along with it and sometimes enjoy it but now I can't face it. My husband has said he doesn't feel loved because of it. I feel hurt by this as I show him a million ways how much I love him every day, why does it all have to be about sex? Still he's a man with needs and of course he's going to feel rejected. I hate myself for making him feel like that but I can't seem to give him what he wants. I start the day with good intentions but by the end of the day when we are finally alone, I'm shattered and can barely keep my eyes open.
How do I get better and save my marriage?
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Please help me - I don't want sex anymore
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Justmeagain78 · 29/05/2016 15:42
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