I posted a few weeks ago about wine loving H being unpleasant when drunk.
We are now in separate rooms. Not really made any decisions yet. We talk about making an effort and he's not been horrible.
I know that my mental health is suffering bcos of all this. This week he's made promises to not drink on x day and X day and he has done. He's not going to change. I have been having mini panics and anxiety. He knows this.
This morning we were going to get a food shop. I was feeling very anxious and was quiet, not silent, but not interacting much.
We set off (he drove) & I gave a couple of one word answers in between deep breathing bcos of being anxious. He shouted about me ignoring him and that he was turning the car round and taking me home. I told him I wasn't not ignoring him, it's anxiety, I was tearful. He turned for home where he would "drop me off" and he would go shopping. I said stop the car a couple of times he refused. I said it louder and he said "no you're going home". I said he was not to decide for me and to let me out. He stopped and I got out.
I realise now I was scared in the car.
I am very upset and shocked. But as ever I can't feel sure of my own reactions...it's not acceptable of him is it? Or am I overreacting? I've come away for the night because being near him is making me feel awful.
Looking for validation I guess that this is very bad behaviour from him to his wife for being quiet because she is fed up/anxious because of HIS behaviour!
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theansweris42 · 28/05/2016 17:14
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