First post so please bear with me. I have nobody else to talk to and I don't know whether everything is my fault. Been with my husband 12 years, 2 DC, previously had quite severe postnatal depression although think have suffered all my life. I work full time in a high pressured job. Husband doesn't believe i am depressed as he says I have nothing to be depressed about. He constantly puts me down and tells me he will tell everyone the truth about me as apparently I act differently in front of people. He expects me to cook, clean and take care of the kids. I fail with this every day, the more mess their is the more useless I feel. He drinks heavily though the week but this is his own money so it's ok. I went to university to try and better myself but he says I've caused nothing but trouble for the family and landed us in lots of debt. I've recently agreed to drop from 5 to 3 days for the sake of my mental health but says I'm lazy and I'm risking our family for the sake of doing what I want. Money wise we would only be 200 worse off but this is unacceptable, though I've explained if he stopped drinking this would be solved. I threaten to leave he gets angry and says he will ruin my career and tell my family and friends things as he thinks I put on an act in front of them. I have asked his friends for help but they don't want to get involved and I don't see my friends as have developed some kind of social anxiety. Is it me? I think I know the answer but he makes me feel so stupid.
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