Hello, long time member/lurker, posted a few times name changed a few times for no particular reason, really need some advice please.
My DH and I have been together for 29 years married for 21, I was 17, him 21 when we first met but unbeknown to me he was already in a relationship. Once I was aware I took a step back and told him I wasn't interested, he ensured me he was going to end the relationship. His DP at the time found out about my existence and started to harass me, from following me with her friends around town, or visiting me at Saturday job place of work making remarks etc. I chose to ignore her and got on with being me.
Months past with no contact between him and myself, then he appeared, no longer in a relationship desperately wanting to meet up. It took a couple months to persuade me he was over his ex, then we finally started dating.
Fast forward, married, a beautiful DD17 who is truly wonderful, we've had the normal ups and downs. DH and I very successful in our chosen professions, him finally being supportive with my mental health issues, I thought we were good.
So, when we decided our DD was old enough to have a FB account, I created one for myself purely to monitor her. DH is a SMS (social media slag) FB is his best friend, don't ask me why I viewed his account, never done so before, but I did. Lot's of photos of him, none of me but hey, looked at the comments and low and behold there's a post from his XDP, saying really nice things about him. I wasn't aware they were still in touch, so I went onto her page and viewed her photos and comments and there on each one is a post from my DH saying " Beautiful xxx" " Dammmmmn xxx" you get the idea... One post was made on my birthday, saying how 'beautiful' she looked.. They've been in contact for the last 3 years, most recent post was this month..
DH is out at a works do, I messaged him earlier asking is XXX your XDP? An hour or so later he replied " yes she was why?" then tried to call me, I didn't answer as I was driving.
What do I say to him when he returns home? I don't want to be a tearful mess, or sounding out of control...
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IDontWantToLookLikeYou · 26/05/2016 22:54
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