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Should I be upset about this?

(18 Posts)
Estimated201 Thu 26-May-16 16:23:57

If your partner liked facebook posts by his ex and then shared facebook memories of them after they had broken up?

CatladyC Thu 26-May-16 16:25:16

Seems harmless on your partner's count. Perhaps have an open conversation about it to him. She may not have let go - all depends on how long it's been etc?

MrPony Thu 26-May-16 16:26:18

Are you upset?
It doesn't really matter what any of us think, it's your life and your feelings.

For me it would depend on the memories shared. I don't mind that my husband has ex's and don't mind him connecting with them as long as the line isn't crossed.

Estimated201 Thu 26-May-16 16:27:13

Its the other way around. My partner is the one liking her posts.

Its been a few months since it last happened and from what I can see only happened a few times.

WellErrr Thu 26-May-16 16:34:05

It's a bit odd.

TheNaze73 Thu 26-May-16 16:37:46

I think a lot depends on how it ended, are they amicable, any unfinished business. Part of me thinks he's being a bit insensitive however, the other part thinks it's his FB so he can do what he likes. If it's not happened for months, has something else happened to prompt you to post OP?

Estimated201 Thu 26-May-16 16:38:58

Nothing has happened. I dont know why it cropped to the front of my mind really.
Things are good between us, but they are not on good terms.

CatladyC Thu 26-May-16 16:56:45

If they aren't on good terms why are they even friends on Facebook? Seems strange to me.

user1463996941 Thu 26-May-16 17:07:10

I personally don't think I'd like it if it was me. I think you need to tell him that you don't like it and leave it at that, if that's all it is.

PetrilBastard Thu 26-May-16 17:08:12

It would grate on me, but I wouldn't mention it.

whitershadeofpale Thu 26-May-16 17:47:57

I'm friends with my exes on facebook, ended on reasonably good terms. Very occasionally I like something (new job, an interesting article etc.) I would never share memories though, that suggests a looking back fondly thing, maybe I could see it if it was a memory related to DC they share, but generally that would be a no-no for me.

pocketsaviour Thu 26-May-16 18:37:48

How long had they split up before you got together with him?

diamond457 Thu 26-May-16 19:58:25

Personally I'd hate it and I wouldn't stand for it I'd be gone. But I'm the jealous type so...
Find it a bit disrespectful to you.

LateNightEveningProstitute Thu 26-May-16 20:23:31

I'd walk over it. Life is too short to spend with people who don't respect you.

Slowdecrease Fri 27-May-16 22:31:46

It's not a case of should you be its a case of are you. Decide that first. If it bothers you, you have one of two options - give him control over it ie tell him your upset by it and ask him to sort it (which will have one of two outcomes) or take control over it and decide not to react to it as you know it's basically meaningless - which will have one outcome.

Cabrinha Fri 27-May-16 22:48:34

Still friends with an ex and liking occasional posts? Do that all the time.

The sharing memories thing would bother me more - depending on what you mean. If it's fb auto generating those "4 years ago today" things, then it's not him. No biggie.

If it's him posting old pictures of them staring into each other's eyes on a gondola and commenting "still think about you all the time babes" I'd be out of there.

Wheresthewine36 Sat 28-May-16 02:44:31

I would be raging...but that's because I'm insecure, fat and generally a miserable old bag at the moment. Don't be like me. If you've got a good relationship, it doesn't really bother you and it hasn't happened for months, let it go. He lives you, you love him, be happy. She's his ex for a reason, you're his now and his future.xx

Procrastinationcity Sat 28-May-16 09:08:18

I'm friends with my ex on Facebook and will often like his posts.
Have no feelings and very few fond memories of our time together , but we share children and it's a way of keeping things amicable, without having to speak.
I think I'd feel the same as you in your situation, but I doubt it means anything of significance.
If everything else between you is good, just let it go and forget about it.

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